What did you like? What didn't you like? What would you have done differently?
These questions are available for many circumstances. Wording them differently opens their availability. Likewise, understanding their purpose creates perspectives.
Conversing with humans is hard. It's fluid, it's organic, it's confusing. Revisiting discussions sheds new lights where you didn't even know a switch existed. Including and especially sweet, fun conversations. It may surprise you and touch your heart to learn what the others observed.
It cannot always be dark. Yield to the tender. Allow the joy. Process your life.